Pancake Personalities

Some of us can come across so tough and so strong on the outside. Many times your personality has a way of intimidating or discouraging people from establishing healthy relationships you or getting to know who you really are via interpersonal interactions. I call this a version of a pancake personality.Let me be the first to tell you that until you change the way you think and the way that you behave, you will have very limited genuine joy, pleasure and peace. So, why do I describe these people as having pancake personalities? Well if you think about the worst pancakes that you have had, perhaps they were thick and dry and maybe not thoroughly cooked leaving a bit of batter in the inside. There are people like that. These people display a thick, tough exterior, but are not complete in personality or desires or maybe even beliefs. When you interact with these personalities it leaves you with a feeling of repugnance. The next time you observe pancakes, or people, of this nature you become very hesitant to approach and timorous to taste or digest. The only way we can ensure that we ourselves don't develop this type of pancake personality is to be deliberate when we endure situations, to ensure that we do not make a pancake batter out of the situation that is impenetrable to the heat of life. Here are the steps to being a better pancake: 1. Know what can kind of batter your working with. Have you really gotten yourself in a "pickle" of a situation? This would indicate that you batter is heavy and lack fluidity. This batter takes a lot more effort to infuse all the ingredients which translates into more time needed to process or identify all the components involved in the problem. 2. Spread your pancake as thin a possible. When you spread your batter thin, you will increase the heat to surface area ratio of your problem. Expose it to as much heat as possible. Put it in the fire (this is for a later post). This translates that into you dealing with the issue. Not just some of the issue but all the issue so that when put it in the past you have peace about it and are not harboring any deep seeded anger or sadness about the decision you made or how you allowed others' decision toward or about you affect you. 3. Don't flip too fast. All sides of the pancake need a certain amount of heat but the first side needs the most attention.This translates into dealing with the cause of your quandary. This could also correspond into people as well. Sometimes when move to fast and look over the initial cause of a problem and want to deal with the flip side, which is the effect. The cause and the effect need to be evaluated. Unfortunately, the cause could sometimes be you. That's OK, as long you recognize it and hold yourself accountable for your role. 4. Don't be afraid of the heat. Heat serves a significant component in tough dilemmas. Heat loosens up unpleasant circumstances. In this pancake analogy, when left on the heat long enough, you can see through the batter. The heat allows the situation to be transparent to the point of identifying the source. I can assure you that by completing steps 1,2,3 and 4 will make yourself more attractive, approachable and desirable to others. Nobody wants a thick, choking pancake. I like mine think, fluffy, with well defined edges and able to be covered in syrup without soaking it all up. When your personality (pancake) is just right is it obvious because when you are "covered" it makes everything taste that much sweeter.

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