Am I whole, am I worthy, do I matter?

These are the three questions that drive our behaviors, how we feel, they way we think and how we interact with others.

You Have To Change.

"I am so tired of being in the same situation and not getting anyway. I feel like every time I turn I around I keep going in circles. I seem to never any thing accomplished. One day things are going to change. I am just going to be patient." How many times have you said these words or heard someone else say something similar. Well the truth is that people DO want change in their lives and they are honest when saying they are tired of being in the same place or circumstances. The other reality is that they ARE willing to wait until the change comes. However, on the other side of those truths is the fact that the circumstance probably won't change. Why do you ask? The answer is simple. In order for the situation or circumstance to change something or someone has to change it. People DO NOT want to change. Newton's 1st Law of Motion says that an object at rest will stay at rest and an object in motion will stay in motion unless an external force is applied. Some of our lives are in a resting position. There are all types of forces being applied to our lives but our own force does not over power these external forces. Until your desire seizes your actions and thoughts you will never be a position for acceleration but will always remain at rest. What force are you exerting on your life to bring change? You have to be the change agent. That force of change. Change has to be initiated, not fabricated. Don't pretend to change. When a change occurs it will be evident to others because they will see new outcomes and new insights revealed.

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Acting Out of Character

When was the last time you did or said something that shocked others and yourself.I am no expect but I believe every behavior that we engage in is a part of who we are. These actions many times can be embarrassing which is why they seem to be abnormal or or of character. Some behaviors we suppress and others we highlight in certain environments. Psychologists DeSteno and Valdesolo argue,"Your character isn’t a stable set of traits, but rather a shifting state that is subject to the constant push and pull of hidden mechanisms in our mind.  And it's the battle between these dueling psychological forces that determine how we act at any given point in time."psychologists DeSteno and Valdesol. It is great to know know of all of our tendencies both consistent and inconsistent in order to monitor those behaviors that enhance us and those that minimize or quality of life. So even when your "out of character" you are really in character. Know yourself.

Remember When...

Sitting on a bus chaperoning a trip full of kids causes me to reflect when I was young. At some point you were young or younger. Think about all the immature things you said and did. It's so refreshing to think about your own personalgrowth and journey you have been on so far. Thank God for growing up, growing stronger, growing wiser and browsing better than before. But what if you're exhibiting some of the same immature behaviors? If you reflect and realize that you are not in a season of growth, answee this question "What is keeping me in this constant season that I'm in?" When your season seems to be eternal you need not look at the external (your environment) but at the internal. You can set the tone for your atmosphere if you do desire. It's great to remember when because it helps to understand who you are and how you entered this season. But even in a season of productivity, do not be complacent. Be even more driven and goal-oriented. Think about the difference between forgetting and remembering for a later time.