Today is the day...

What have you been holding of on doing until later, or next week, or next month or maybe even next year. It could buying a house, or starting your next degree or even your first. Maybe starting a relationship or ending and old one. It could even be getting married or starting a family. Well guess what? Today is the day to get it done or get the ball rolling? Why do we plan do things tomorrow what we can do today? We plan tomorrow as if we know what tomorrow holds. Nothing is promised and even plans aren't planned in the big scheme of things because there are so many factors that contribute what, when and how we get tasks accomplished in our lives. So let today be your day and even if you don't achieve the goal at least you started. You can't worry about finishing a project until you worry about starting it.

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Pancake Personalities

Some of us can come across so tough and so strong on the outside. Many times your personality has a way of intimidating or discouraging people from establishing healthy relationships you or getting to know who you really are via interpersonal interactions. I call this a version of a pancake personality.Let me be the first to tell you that until you change the way you think and the way that you behave, you will have very limited genuine joy, pleasure and peace. So, why do I describe these people as having pancake personalities? Well if you think about the worst pancakes that you have had, perhaps they were thick and dry and maybe not thoroughly cooked leaving a bit of batter in the inside. There are people like that. These people display a thick, tough exterior, but are not complete in personality or desires or maybe even beliefs. When you interact with these personalities it leaves you with a feeling of repugnance. The next time you observe pancakes, or people, of this nature you become very hesitant to approach and timorous to taste or digest. The only way we can ensure that we ourselves don't develop this type of pancake personality is to be deliberate when we endure situations, to ensure that we do not make a pancake batter out of the situation that is impenetrable to the heat of life. Here are the steps to being a better pancake: 1. Know what can kind of batter your working with. Have you really gotten yourself in a "pickle" of a situation? This would indicate that you batter is heavy and lack fluidity. This batter takes a lot more effort to infuse all the ingredients which translates into more time needed to process or identify all the components involved in the problem. 2. Spread your pancake as thin a possible. When you spread your batter thin, you will increase the heat to surface area ratio of your problem. Expose it to as much heat as possible. Put it in the fire (this is for a later post). This translates that into you dealing with the issue. Not just some of the issue but all the issue so that when put it in the past you have peace about it and are not harboring any deep seeded anger or sadness about the decision you made or how you allowed others' decision toward or about you affect you. 3. Don't flip too fast. All sides of the pancake need a certain amount of heat but the first side needs the most attention.This translates into dealing with the cause of your quandary. This could also correspond into people as well. Sometimes when move to fast and look over the initial cause of a problem and want to deal with the flip side, which is the effect. The cause and the effect need to be evaluated. Unfortunately, the cause could sometimes be you. That's OK, as long you recognize it and hold yourself accountable for your role. 4. Don't be afraid of the heat. Heat serves a significant component in tough dilemmas. Heat loosens up unpleasant circumstances. In this pancake analogy, when left on the heat long enough, you can see through the batter. The heat allows the situation to be transparent to the point of identifying the source. I can assure you that by completing steps 1,2,3 and 4 will make yourself more attractive, approachable and desirable to others. Nobody wants a thick, choking pancake. I like mine think, fluffy, with well defined edges and able to be covered in syrup without soaking it all up. When your personality (pancake) is just right is it obvious because when you are "covered" it makes everything taste that much sweeter.

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When You Cry...

I heard a great sermon today and the most profound statement that has resonated with me all day that states "When you cry out to a friend, that is called whining. But when you cry out to God, that is called worship. - Moses Herring, Sr." Selah, which mean stop, pause and think. This statement is something that is worth of Selah. We spend unproductive time telling our friends all about our worries, problems and concerns. I have said for years that the only person that really cares about your problems are you. This may seem like a hard, cold statement, but it is a reality. I only say this because your friends have issues of their own and if it came down to solving their own problems or expending energy on yours; They will surely choice their own. Crying, whining, to a friend will not end in a resolution to a deep rooted concern that seems to stop the flow of life. However, crying to God can. He has problem-solving power. Even if you are not a Christian that can relate to the previous thought, crying out simply should awaken something within you and recalibrate the strength that has become depleted over time and experiences that weaken our ability survive and cope. I encourage you to cry out. Crying does your spirit well and releases those things that may hold you fixated. But remember, everyone is not concerned about your cries. Cry out to the God of the universe or cry out to the god within you. When you cry you will find your power. And remember it's always appropriate to Selah.

Against All Odds...Believe

So, let me first start by saying there is a lot of crap TV out there, but there are also so great shows that are very informative and can be life alternative if you open your mind and receive the message that's being presented. I say that you say this, "You can only go as far as you allow your imagination to flourish. Despite the conditions that surround you, the barriers that block you or the haters that try to hinder you: Nothing is impossible. Be careful of the thoughts that are in your mind because those thoughts are your limitations. If you believe that you won't find a fruitful, adult relationship then you won't. If you don't think that your smart enough to be successful in a certain area of your life, chances are you won't. Doubt can equal death. My grandmother used to say, "you gotta name it and claim." I follow that mantra to this day. You have to work towards those things that you desire. However, working without worth is worthless. So the questions that you have to ask yourself is "Am I hindering myself?" Your beliefs release energy into the atmosphere that others around you can sense. If people began to withdraw from you than gravitate towards you, it could be the energy that you are producing.